Having A Child Is A Dream Come True

Having a child and becoming a parent is much more than a dream come true. Having a child is much more than achieving a goal. When we hold a newborn baby in our arms, it means we have a project that will last the rest of our lives.

This means that your heart will live outside your body forever and that you will enjoy every moment with this perfect being.

In a world filled with science and psychology, researchers often examine a woman’s desire to become a mother. We can say, without a doubt, that this desire is in a way private, intimate and often inexplicable. 

But researchers – who are constantly trying to isolate variables – tell us that this desire is almost always based on three motivations.

The first motivation behind a person’s dream of having a child is to strengthen the bond with their partner. They want to have a life project in common.

The second reason that drives women to want to be mothers is the desire to feel complete.

And the last reason is that many people decide to become mothers as they want to find the meaning of their own existence. 

You may agree or disagree with the reasons given. But we can all agree that it is about more than that.

Of course, the desire to have a child is not always shared by one’s partner. There may also be different situations and other factors.

There are even times when a baby comes when you least expect it, and it turns out to be the best thing that could ever happen. 

Having a child is about so much more than just a wish. We invite you to reflect on this. 

I wanted you, it took a long time, and now you are finally here

Some children come after a long wait and many hopes…

For mothers who are unable to conceive. Men and women who dream of becoming parents… Families who try and try but only experience frustration. Until the miracle finally comes and the dream becomes a reality.

Whether your partner shares your deep desire or not, there are both women and men who dream of having a child and they are just waiting for the right time… when our sentimental lives and our finances are combined and can provide the magic moment.

But just when the moment works perfectly, they discover that it is not possible. The test is negative again and again.

The conception does not happen. And there is no choice but to seek help; to get help from modern science with artificial insemination.

Something that is not always talked about is the psychological and emotional pressure that both men and women experience.

Stress, illusion, hope and frustration – these are all difficult to deal with. 

These are very complex situations that are marked by the strong desire to have children. In the majority of cases, it ends successfully.

The “imaginary child” that lives inside us

This beautiful painting was painted by Henry James Draper in the late 19th century. It represents the magical moment when a nymph gets his dream of becoming a mother fulfilled.  

Draper himself explained that he imagined a sad woman walking along the beach, just before the scene, as the painting shows. On the rocks, she suddenly finds a giant clam wrapped in seaweed.

Without thinking about it, she removes the tongs and the mussel immediately opens up. As it opens, the nymph discovers a perfectly small, pink baby dreaming sweetly on a pearly white surface. The woman thanks the sea and takes the baby up in her arms.

Having a child – wishes and reasons

This same desire for the arrival of a child is always accompanied by the mental practice of an “imaginary child.” 

This can seem like something that is psychologically and emotionally unhealthy. But it can actually be incredibly beneficial as long as one does not lose sight of logic and reality.

• It is not about assigning ideal virtues to an imaginary child such as exquisite beauty and intelligence, academic success, or a constantly caring and obedient personality.
• The healthiest thing to do is to imagine yourself being happy and in the company of this child. The baby does not have to be a future lawyer, concert pianist or a famous athlete. He can become whatever he wants. But we can imagine a little one who tomorrow can do just what he wants. We can imagine that we are raising him and helping him. We can imagine ourselves being around and always shining like a light in every phase of life.

A person’s desire to have a child is based on many reasons that cannot be isolated or measured in a laboratory. 

It’s just a deep desire to complete our lives – to share our lives with a happy and free child. We dream of giving that child wings so he can fly, and roots so he can remember where he came from.

Our desires always come first in the form of dreams, and later we enjoy them when they come true. Enjoy every single day with your little treasure.