Do Not Forget To Listen, Kiss And Be Present With The Child

All good parents remember that today can be the best day for their children. Just like yesterday, was the best, and tomorrow will be just as well. These parents listen to their child, embrace them, make them laugh and not least enjoy being present with the child.

Over the last few years, we have opened our eyes to  philosophies such as mindfulness that reminds us and even warns us around that we should gear down. The most important things always happen in the “now”.

Perhaps this is precisely the reason why more and more families are taking on a new and careful concept when it comes to raising their children.

Nowadays we hear about a very interesting concept: “Zen moms”. They are a group of women who have started a movement that goes beyond yoga and meditation classes. They promote the development of an attitude that is calm, patient and above all focused on being more present with the child. 

This is where they learn to listen and where they learn to be gesture counts. Every word, caress, silence or distance can leave a permanent mark in a child’s brain.

It is essential to avoid common dynamics such as getting them to stop using diapers as soon as possible. Get them to eat solid foods too soon. Teach them how to dress prematurely. Have them eat their breakfast without interruption. And even get them to learn reading skills by the age of 3!

There are parents who have no doubt forgotten what it is like to be a child. Children are not small adults. They are people who need help for all of their parents, but the most important thing for them is what happens here and now.

Today is the best day to make your child happy, but… you know how?

To make your child happy, you do not have to give them presents, take them to the amusement park, or give them an advance on their birthday party next month. There is more simple than this. It’s about knowing, “how to be present.” This can be achieved even if you have long working days. The time we dedicate to our children should be measured in quality and not quantity.

In this article we will give you some advice on what you can reflect on. Thus, you can create bonds and be present with the child.

Give them love and show it

• A small source on the stomach that makes the baby laugh.
• Give your child your attention. Let him see that everything he says, thinks or comes up with is important to you.
• Caress him with your arms, your songs and your goodnight kisses. Let him know that he is magical, special and loved by his parents. All of these gestures are gifts of oxytocin that leave marks in your baby’s brain.

You are never too old to play and be present with the child

Today is a good day to play pirates. You can also get a little dirty while planting seeds. Later, these will turn into huge trees, taking you into a world of flowers and colors.

Today is a good day to take your child by the hand, and spend time in the park or on the beach. You can even have fun at home while painting a beautiful picture with watercolors. You can also try making self-portraits or painting your pet.

Today we want to make small things big

Today, just like yesterday and just like tomorrow, make your child see that small things are always the most important. This is how you will teach him about humility, respect and how to value the gift, love and nature of friendship. He will learn the value of smiling, saying “thank you”, “I hear you”, “I respect you” and “I can see it from your point of view”.

To educate our children with “Zen” crafts, where we live in the present, where we can enjoy time with them, as well as skin-to-skin contact, where we can feel the breath and laughter of the little ones up close, is, how we create a happy life for our children. A life where we can see sunshine and energy in the eyes of our children, whom we love so much.

Remember that today is the most important day for your child. Today, the child needs to be heard, enjoyed and loved. Today you need to be present with the child. Do not withhold emotional gifts from him. Gifts that build security and joy in his mind and heart.