9 Dangers Of Overprotective Upbringing
Constant concern about the safety of our children, and avoiding all risks, at all costs, is, ironically, a dangerous way to educate. Overprotective upbringing is anything but beneficial for children.
It is true that children are defenseless in certain situations, which means they need a lot of care and attention from adults. However, there comes a time when they also have to read to solve problems on their own. It enables them to develop autonomy and personality.
When parents expose their children to excessive worry and caution, it can negatively affect their children’s characters and personalities. This influence is hard to change later in life. And, of course, it creates a myriad of problems.
Self-esteem is something that children develop when they themselves face various challenges and problems – whether they overcome them or not. If they never have the opportunity to do this, due to an overprotective upbringing, they will be unable to build self-confidence.
This quality will be constantly declining if parents do not allow their children to handle certain things on their own. When parents do everything for their children, their children will never discover their own abilities, nor will they develop the courage to deal with problems and challenges in daily life.
When parents do not allow their children to do things alone, these children will not learn the value of effort. All they know is how to make a request to get what they want. As a result, they become spoiled and lack empathy. They are prone to crying and have anger attacks.
As a result of overprotective upbringing, children become overly dependent on their parents. This is because their parents try to make their life as easy as possible and solve all their problems for them.
These children will therefore not be able to solve any problems without the help of their parents. Their autonomy and independence are greatly limited. This behavior can continue into adolescence, and even into adulthood.
When fear and worry dictate the way mothers and fathers raise their children, parents pass on this fear and insecurity to their children. Since these children do not know how to cope on their own, they will begin to see everything as a potential threat.
This can even result in social phobias. When we give our children an overprotective childhood, we create some insecure individuals.
Instead, we need to give our children the opportunity to discover that they are capable of achieving their goals.
People learn by experimenting and making mistakes. From the time when we are small, we learn by trying and failing. Sometimes, we are successful, sometimes we fail. We need to allow our children to have these experiences.
When children fail, we need to teach them problem-solving skills, instead of solving their problems for them. If our children know how to solve daily challenges, they will become responsible adults in the future.
Overprotected children always have someone who solves everything for them. Their parents even make their decisions, which keeps them from making mistakes.
These attitudes are detrimental to children’s development because parents do not give them the opportunity to experience mistakes. Later in life, when they face disappointment and frustration, these children will not know how to deal with it.
The lack of self-esteem that excessive protection creates can also lead to behavioral problems later in life. These problems can occur when the child is socializing with his or her peers, or at school. It can also have a negative effect on academic performance.
It is important that we give our children responsibility, from an early age. We should not always help them with their daily duties, such as picking up toys and saving their bed. Nor should we make excuses for their mistakes or bad behavior. If we do this, their sense of responsibility will slowly disappear.
Rules must be introduced from the time when children are young. They need to learn that in order to get along well with others and live in society, we must take responsibility for our actions. With this valuable lesson, we will raise responsible and respectful children.
Finally, it is important to remember that no matter how hard you try, it is impossible to protect your children from all risks, disappointments and ailments. In life, there are endless battles to fight and we need to prepare our children to overcome any challenge. Therefore, it is crucial that we avoid falling into the bad habit of overprotecting our children.
