Do Not Wait For Your Children To Grow Up, Take Care Of Yourself

It is common for mothers to put aside their own worries and anxieties as they adapt to the challenges of raising their children. But it is so important to take care of yourself while and when your children grow up.

Whether it is because of cultural traditions, or because we do not know better , we often think that we must suppress our own worries and give up our self-realization while our children are still dependent on us.

However, this could not be further from the truth. Taking care of ourselves and giving ourselves time to turn off is one of the best examples we can give our sons and daughters.

If we spend time for ourselves, we will educate by example. Not just with words. In this way , our children will internalize self-love and self-care as something normal.  And not as something to generate costs or conflicts.

In the same way, we avoid becoming emotionally dependent on our children and creating addiction in them. In this way, they learn to both give and receive, not only with others, but also in their relationship with themselves.

Take care of yourself and your children as your children grow up

If you wait until your children are older to take care of yourself, you will deprive them of an important lesson. Namely, how to love yourself. Our children need to understand the value and importance of self-love as something indispensable to all of us.

This means that we must heal the small part of ourselves that says we are worthless as women if we do not sacrifice ourselves for our families . A mother is healed like a woman when she begins to ignore the role of martyrdom that society imposes on her.

Being a woman does not mean enduring what life throws at us. That doesn’t mean we have to bend our own emotional boundaries or take any burden on our shoulders, no matter how big. A mother who is a healthy woman recognizes her own worth in the world as an individual. She knows her own needs.

In addition, a mother who takes care of herself will take the time to take care of her inner and outer well-being. She wants to raise children who can take better care of themselves, work towards their ambitions and achieve balance in their lives.

Mom, take care of yourself, that’s good for me too

As we have said, it is important for mothers to take care of themselves every day. They do not have to dedicate their individual identity. It’s easy to forget this, or relegate it to the lowest priority. But it is important if we are to ensure the best education for our children. Let’s take a look at some tips for daily care.

Set aside time each day

Arrange once a day where you can breathe. Where you can ask yourself how you are feeling, heal your wounds and soothe yourself. A few minutes in bed, on the couch or on the patio to think about yourself. To think about how the events of the day have made you feel. It will help you compose yourself and manage your emotions better.

This benefits your children directly. Not only will you be calmer and more cohesive, they will also see an example of the first achievement of self-care: dedicating time to understanding yourself as your children grow up.

Choose moments each week and month to love yourself

Likewise, you should set aside one or more moments each week to work out, read, go out with friends or whatever you fancy. That is, organize your time so that you can do all the things that you do not normally have time for or that you often postpone until later.

Work on making time for positive activities that allow you to relax and work on yourself. This time is special for you to have fun and get to know yourself. Giving ourselves this freedom makes us feel fulfilled, alive and happy.

Build your self-esteem as your children grow up

We tend to put our self-esteem at sea, like a small paper boat at sea. When the seas are stormy, this fragile little craft can take in water and sink. In the shipwreck, it is our own love that suffers.

• Take the emotional baggage out of your life. Any non-constructive comment or action is insignificant. You are interested in building, not destroying.

• Apply the same principle to the negative thoughts and feelings you have towards yourself and your surroundings. Writing these thoughts down and then tearing them over is a great way to free ourselves from them.
• Write a list of everything positive in your life, and read through it whenever you need it.
• Make a list of everything you like to do and all the things you want to explore. Then put it into practice.

Remember that the best way to promote our children’s education and development is by teaching them by example. Let us not forget that everything that is good for us is also good for when our children grow up, in the short term and in the long term.

It’s a simple idea: We work better when we feel better.