My Friends Dislike My Partner

You recently met someone and started a relationship. Sooner or later, the moment will come where you will introduce your partner to your friends. It is a crucial step in securing your bond. But, you might be thinking about the following; “What should I do if my friends do not like my partner?”.

If these are old friends you really trust, they will tell you straight out. If they do not know how to express it, they will show it to you, somehow.

For that reason,  it is important to create time for a gathering. It will give them a chance to express their concerns loudly but always with respect.

My friends do not like my partner… How do I address the issue?

Before talking to your friends,  it would be a good idea to answer some questions for yourself. E.g; “What do my friends mean to me? What have they thought about my other partners? Why might my friends not like my new partner? What are they thinking? ”

Sometimes, friends are like sisters and brothers. It is not necessarily positive if we think of family as restrictive or oppressive. When a group of friends is a kind of clan,  a newly arrived person will have to go through many tests, in order to be approved by the group. 

Is that why your friends do not like your partner? If you think that’s the case, it’s probably not bothering you. It is obviously not possible to please everyone, or to fit into any group.

If you are in a relationship with someone who makes you feel good about yourself, the rest is probably just a matter of time. 

Reflect on romantic love

There is something very important that everyone should do when they are in a relationship: to think about their own concept of love. In particular, the concept of romantic love. 

The purpose of this study is to find a solid, realistic base that can bring you well-being. It helps you clarify your views, put outdated ideas behind you and free yourself from idealizations. 

In other words, you can not expect to build a real relationship based on old ideas in the middle of the 21st century.

People who think that love is synonymous with emotional co-dependence, jealousy, humiliation, loss of individuality and self-esteem, as well as suffering, are wasting their time.

Do you like your partner?

If “my friends do not like my partner” is a concern that resonates with you, it is very important that you ask yourself the question of whether you like your partner. Remember that well-being is important in all relationships. 

With respect to your partner, if you choose the other solution in the majority of the questions below, you may need to listen to your friends.

• Do you feel respected, or does he or she criticize you in every decision you make?

• Does your partner love you the way you are, or does he or she constantly find fault?
• Does your partner like that you have friends, or would he rather spend 24 hours a day with you?
• Do you laugh a lot, or are you upset, bitter or tearful?
• Are you afraid of your partner’s anger? Do you avoid confronting your partner?
• Does your partner show concern for you, your needs, your time, and your fears, or does he or she become evasive when you ask for help?

Find a balance between what your friends tell you and what you yourself think, experience and feel with your partner. You should not ignore the opinions of others, but you should also not be completely influenced by what they say.

Talk to your friends, communicate with your partner, and, more than anything else, be honest with yourself.