Self-care Is Important So You Can Give Your Child The Best

For women, self-care is wisdom, health and well-being. That means we need to keep in mind how much we are worth and how much we deserve so that we can give our children the best. That means we need to learn to be strong so we can push our fears aside. And self-care means that we must embrace hope and a well-being that heals, guides and nourishes.

Many child rearing and motherhood experts remind us that mothers need to take care of their basic needs. Here they talk not only about physical needs, but also emotional and psychological needs. It is important that mothers take care of themselves during pregnancy and the first months after birth. 

Family and friends always insist that expectant mothers should go to the doctor as soon as possible and be scanned. We are obsessed with eating properly during pregnancy. But we rarely focus on how women feel emotionally, whether they are stressed, etc.

Moreover , the most delicate and complex phase for many mothers comes after the birth of their child. But even to this day, postpartum depression continues to be a taboo. We often call mothers who are tired, careless, discouraged, or frustrated as “bad mothers.”

Postpartum depression affects many

Changes need to be made to these issues. Postpartum depression affects 15% of women. This is not a small number. We need to take a step back and do something about this problem.

Sometimes a mother can not handle everything herself and needs help. She needs advice, guidance, and more than anything else: someone who is nearby and who can make her feel understood. If she does not have it, she will perceive herself as a bad mother and she will have a hard time thinking otherwise.

By investing time in ourselves and self-care, we achieve quality of life. We have to take care of ourselves as we deserve. We have to heal as women. These are the first steps on the path to joy and to being able to give our children the best. The same thing happens with fathers.

When we take care of our mental and emotional well-being, we guarantee ourselves success when raising our children. It will guarantee personal harmony and family harmony so we can take on any challenge… Where we can enjoy every day, every detail…

When I heal myself as a woman, I am able to identify the wounds I carry inside

What do we mean when we talk about “healing ourselves”? First, we must remember that many of us face many unresolved issues every day. This can be, for example, anger, hidden sadness, traumatic memories, unmet needs, feelings of emptiness, etc.

• There is no one who can give authentic strength and love to another if they are weighed down by these wounds. These small, black holes become part of our daily lives, and it even affects the way we raise our children.
• We need to identify these wounds; the scars that keep us from breathing freely.
• When we know how to identify our wounds and when we accept them, it is a step towards a healing process. 
• Later we have to air the wound, cry, get drained… And then we have to move on with our heads upright.

Be strong, learn to forgive, and gain wisdom along the way

Healing means that we understand that everything we have experienced and gone through can make us stronger. For this to happen, we must learn to forgive. We must put the past behind us, close the door and look to new horizons. Our future is full of hope, dreams and maturity.

• Do not be a prisoner of your past. Your present is full of possibilities. Restart your life with the lessons you have learned. Your experiences are the ones that give you your own identity – a unique story that you have to overcome.
• You are a resilient woman who has turned her weaknesses into strengths. So shut down the pain of the past and step into the present. Everything is new and you are the main character.

I give myself time for self-care and love myself so I can be the best version of myself

Do not forget yourself. You take care of your baby. You see him sleeping. You feed him often. You are always attentive. You anticipate his needs… But what about you? What do you do to take care of yourself?

Self-care: A priority that makes you stronger, happier and more satisfied

You are a mother, but you are also a woman, a partner, a friend, daughter, sister, etc. You are a person who wants to grow, mature yourself and learn. You need to keep all these roles and desires in balance, for that is the only place where you can find your true joy.

Every moment you spend with your child is a gift. But you are not a bad mother just because you dedicate a few hours to yourself. 

So just go ahead and hand out the responsibilities. Let your partner, family member, or someone you trust take care of the children so you can relax. You will feel fresh and renewed when you return!

Do something new every day. Being a mother often means repeating the same routine day after day. Try a pepper it up a bit! Sometimes it is the smallest detail that can give our days immense joy! Take a walk, read a book, call a friend, etc.

What are you waiting for? Be the best example for your child. Show her the beautiful, mature and brave person you are!