The Extinction Technique Against Negative Behavior

All children are unique. They do not have the same personality, and not all families have the same dynamics. It is up to the parents to choose which parenting techniques and strategies work best for them. In this article, we will take a closer look at a specific technique: the extinction technique .

The purpose of this technique is to guide children so that they learn to deal with frustrations and choose behavioral patterns that help them navigate their surroundings. 

But on some occasions , children choose to manipulate patterns of behavior that lead to problems on a personal, social, family, or academic level. It is children who do not obey who constantly insult and challenge us.

Our role in these situations is to help them replace these conflicts with healthier and more appropriate alternatives. But it is important that it is always done in a caring and respectful way so that one does not start punishing. Keep in mind that children are still learning how to live life and how to get along with others.

The importance of attention

It can be difficult to see exactly what it is we are doing to reward this negative behavior. When this behavior occurs, we reprimand or punish the child. But what we overlook is that the attention we as parents or teachers give to the child is actually one of the greatest reinforcers. 

Adults tend to be more aware of children’s transgressions and negative behavior patterns because we find them annoying and annoying. All too often, we overlook our children’s good behavior patterns. The child therefore begins to realize and understand that the only way he can get our attention is by behaving rudely.

How to use the extinction technique

• Make sure the child understands the conditions from the start. It is very important that you clearly explain that you expect them to ask questions and speak in a calm and polite manner. You should also explain that you will not respond as long as they are shouting, screaming or being disrespectful. They will be completely ignored.
• It is fundamental that you are consistent with the use of the technique. If you only ignore negative behaviors some of the time, then it will only aggravate the situation. You need to stand firm and make sure that you always ignore unwanted behavior and that you reward positive behavior.

• Although the extinction technique is really effective, it is something that takes time. Therefore, you cannot use it for behavioral patterns that need to stop immediately. For example, if your child sticks his fingers in the socket, you can not ignore it. Here you need to act immediately.
• You need to keep in mind that when you start using this technique, there may be a temporary increase in unwanted behavior. This is normal, but it is still important that you stand firm and consistent until your child understands the new system, and then the negative behavior patterns will slowly disappear.